Dating advice for 40 s
Dating advice for 40 s - 76 interesting facts about dating
As a widow who's back on the dating scene in my 40s, I'd like to share some lessons I've learned to help you maneuver the unfamiliar and sometimes seemingly shark-infested waters of the dating world. The same is true for everyone out there in the 40-something dating pool. Know that baggage doesn't mean you're doomed, just different. Maya Angelou said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." I couldn't agree more! By now, you (along with any prospective date) have been through some things in life.
The days of scraping together enough money for a movie are over!
Use that wisdom that comes with age to carefully assess what you need — and to identify any red flags and non-negotiables that appear early on.
If you’re coming out of a marriage or long-term relationship, don’t rush back into dating if you’re not emotionally ready for someone new.
Be aware of your deal breakers and red flags (lying, manipulation, drug use, addictions, cheating, etc.), but be willing to find out the WHY behind the person's perceptions or responses. You might just find that they're being cautious, careful and a little guarded because they, just like you, are HUMAN, have been hurt, and are looking to love and be loved. Unlike the wide-eyed and malleable people you were dealing with in the early years, this person has experienced life, formed their own opinions about the world, determined what they want, who they are, and how they want to live their lives.
The probability of your changing them is pretty low, even if they fall in love with you.
Be clear about what you’re looking for in a relationship from the beginning.
An advantage to dating later in life is that you should know yourself better than you did in your younger years.
Dating can be intimidating and overwhelming — and maybe even terrifying — for anyone, no matter your age.
While dating after 40 might appear to have its unique set of challenges, it doesn’t have to be something to be dreaded. Don’t let a sense of urgency or the proverbial ticking clock impair your dating judgment.
To date successfully you can’t be holding your dinner companion responsible for the sins of an ex.
Give your date a fair chance, not comparing him to those who’ve come before. Try not to rush the get-to-know-each-other process.
When they recorded “Somebody to Love” Jefferson Airplane made famous the sentiment that we all want someone to love: Don’t you want somebody to love Don’t you need somebody to love Wouldn’t you love somebody to love You better find somebody to love.