The stereotype of a “commitment phobe” might be a silver-haired bachelor in an expensive suit, or a young executive chained to a desk rather than a partner, but in fact it’s a growing number of middle-class twentysomethings with too much choice and too little time.Promiscuity has never been so simple (thanks, Tinder!
“I always ask sex-therapy clients, ‘How long were you dating this person before you decided to be in a relationship? If, at any time, my actions exceed the limits of this commitment, I will, within twenty-four hours, notify one of the following persons: my Sunday school teacher, accountability partner, Bible Study leader, or minister VI.It seems men today overwhelmingly refuse to commit to long term relationships with women.To some (ie my mother) his behaviour seems outrageous. After all, why would a smart, successful 31-year-old man want to be in a relationship when he could go on a dating app and line up a different woman every night for the week?And why, for that matter, would a smart, successful 31-year-old woman?It's a generation of eternal bachelors whether you like it or not. Studies show that members of our generation are waiting until their late 20s or early 30s to marry.
However, men see things differently- especially this new age of men. Why relinquish the bachelor life when it is permissive of limitless indulgence?
I recently dated a man I’d met in a pub who, after three months of dinners, sleepovers and incessant Whats Apping, casually said, while pouring me a glass of wine, “You know this isn’t exclusive, right?
” He added that he’d been hooking up with girls from Tinder between each of our dates.
For the most part, you'll find that many women love relationships and commitments.
They dream of their Channing Tatum or Prince Charming with whom they can reenact scenes from their favorite romantic comedy.
We have truly dehumanized women and objectified the female body. There is a reason why men are shifting away from the institution of marriage.