Devotional for young dating couples

20-Nov-2019 10:08 by 6 Comments

Devotional for young dating couples

Q: I’ve read that it’s emotionally unchaste to pray with your significant other if you’re not married because prayer is an intensely intimate experience between you and God.

We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.And so I think the church really serves and helps Christian singles consider marriage and consider dating.Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.The mystery of the human person, as created by God, is manifested in a particularly powerful way through the covenant of holy matrimony.

The love of husband and wife, which gives life to a new human person, is a reflection of the love of the Blessed Trinity.To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).Why would I do that with them but not with the one that I’m discerning to spend the rest of my life with?A: As I look back on my time high school and college, I’ve noticed that most of the friends that I still have from those days are friends that I prayed with. If you are like most dating couples, you are looking for more than just a companion – you want a soul mate!