Invalidating feelings - dating a sagittarius capricorn cusp
Think back to the last time you really felt heard, understood, and listened to. You join their world and see things from their point of view.It's a way of showing you understand and accept their thoughts and feelings just as they are.
I wrote an article some time ago in my journal about empowerment in which I talk a lot about my death of spirit due to my husband's silent abuse, the almost deadly effect on me and what I did to regain my soul spirit. IT comes in many forms so you don't see or realize it.This is true for me – growing up, I was a sensitive kid and I cried easily.But instead of feeling supported in those moments, I was told that I was too sensitive, that I needed to stop crying, that I shouldn’t be upset.These types of responses to children’s emotions are common, and usually not ill-intentioned, but they can be very damaging.Emotional invalidation doesn’t just happen to children, either.I am writing this because of the good response from my empowerment article. Invalidation is defined simply as rejection, ignoring, mocking, judging, diminishing someone's feelings. If you are very sick in the bedroom and your husband or family does not come in for 8 hours to check on you in your bedroom, that is invalidation. If you leave a voice message on the answer machine or text and the other person doesn't finish listening to the message or doesn't return the call if appropriate, that is invalidation.
Today I am speaking of the silent abuse: INVALIDATION. Women who are under this colorless veil of silent abuse will often awaken in the morning depressed. If they ask everyone in the room what they would like to drink but they don't ask you, that is invalidation.
It’s everywhere – and sometimes so subtle you don’t even realize it’s happening.
Invalidation is so common in our society that you’ve probably inadvertently done it to others – and to yourself.
I didn’t know that the only food I’d be able to keep down for the first four months of pregnancy was Kraft macaroni and cheese.
I mean, I did a lot of babysitting growing up and I was a nanny for twin toddlers in college, so obviously I was qualified to be a mother, right?
Are the people around you invalidating you and holding you back from progressing?